Be Your Own Valentine.

Just because you were a single sad girl today doesn’t mean you won’t wake up extremely glad to be that way tomorrow. You can hog all of the covers AND not have to deal with the emotional baggage of a boyfriend!

If you’re single – I hope you celebrated Galentine’s Day with me. It’s like the betchy counterpart to this commercialized romantic holiday. You celebrate yourself and all your girlfriends. BEST DAY EVER.

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I have a whole evening of pampering planned just for me, because I love myself. I’m my own Valentine, spoiling my inner basic white girl with an at-home spa night – complete with Lush bath bombs because I SAID BASIC!!! I might be writing this right now with face mask on and wine by my side. Stop judging me. If you’re planning to see 50 Shades of Grey on opening weekend, we’re even. Ps. Take notes for later and tell me how it was.

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 Did you know Americans spend $17.3 BILLION DOLLARS on shit for Valentine’s Day?? Yeah. 17,000,000,000 is a lot of zeroes, it’s a lot of money. Like, do you know how much lipstick I could get for 17 billion dollars?! Instead it’s on cards, chocolates, flowers and roses galore. Chocolate, jewelry, lingerie. Dinner, a night out, a hotel room downtown. Yeah… Having a boyfriend doesn’t sound so bad when I think about it like that.

But SCB, that all sounds great! I want to be taken out by a gentleman who loves me and cares for me so I can get presents and be spoiled and told I’m pretty and loved and then taken to a hotel room and live out my 50 Shades of Grey.

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I hear you. I mean really, what’s worse than being a young, single, and ready to mingle girl on Valentine’s Day? Oh, I don’t know… Maybe having an unplanned pregnancy. Did you know that 6 in 10 pregnancies to women ages 20-24 are unplanned? You read that right. 6 in 10 women who get pregnant during the ages of 20-24 DID NOT PLAN TO BECOME PREGNANT WHEN THEY DID. Ooooops.

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I’m still not over that 6 in 10 pregnancies to women ages 20-24 are unplanned. What a staggering statistic. Why is THAT not a part of the commercialized holiday that’s focused around relationships and love? I suppose the idea of meaningless sex and the morning after pill isn’t very Hallmark, but contraception and birth control is clearly a topic we need to discuss.

Bedsider is an online birth control support network funded by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, a research based non-profit and non-partisan organization. Their purpose is to make everything about birth control more accessible and understandable.

There’s so much info available – you can learn about all your options for methods of birth control – with user testimonies, use their tools to keep you on schedule, watch videos breaking down contraception myths, and you’ll find the most comprehensive list of where you can get birth control. Check out all their resources here.

 Just because you’re an empowered independent woman, does not mean you’re invincible and there’s no way that just this one time will matter for you. Don’t be that girl who got pregnant simply because she was careless. Do better. Educate yourself, protect yourself. 

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I would prefer Cupid’s arrow to an unplanned Stork delivery, but that’s just me.

You could be taking a lovely bath tonight, enjoying some wine and a good book… or making a literal baby without even trying. Remember: first comes love, then comes marriage, THEN comes the baby in the baby carriage.

Check out Bedsider.org  and get informed so you’re prepared to make the best decision for you when it comes to sex, love, and birth control – because feelings are fleeting but babies are forever.

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